self-esteem and building confidence

Hey there! today’s post is something very meaningful and important to me. It’s also about something I have been wanting to do for a long time now, therefor I want to make it right. The truth is, everybody has at least one insecurity, one thing they wish to change about themselves. Whether they are super quiet or the loudest of people, in fact even celebrities have some low self esteem now and then. However as we nearly all know, it can be especially hard for those with mental challenges going on inside their head. Disorders like, depression, bipolar, obsessive compulsive disorder, anxiety e.c.t can really bring you down. Those types of illnesses cause you to believe you are unattractive or have a bad personality, they are not true. You are probably thinking of all your flaws as you read this. But our flaws are our perfections and greatest weapons. Because honestly whatever your thinking, your one of the only people who has thought it. I understand its difficult and gaining confidence doesn’t just happen, especially when your in a dark and unconfident state of mind, however it will all be worth it. It is very common when your suffering with an illness like depression to have random boosts of confidence where you want to get help and be healthy, and go outside from inside your bedroom, but every time the confidence just disappears and you give up. Sometimes the boost may last a few minute’s, hours of rarely days. Hopefully this post will give you a boost, because with enough boosts, I think it will defiantly make a change.

The first step is accepting your flaws, but also accepting the fact that there are some selfish people who you can’t change. I know it’s difficult when you already feel unconfident and are then left feeling even worse. Although it will take a while, once you accepted yourself and your flaws, no body can hurt you with them. People can be cruel, unbelievable and sometimes you can’t talk sense in to them. But one day they will realise their evil acts and just because you may not be their to see, it will happen. But can I tell you something? When I see you, anybody for that matter, I don’t see their flaws. I don’t talk to ugly people. Because they don’t exist. If you have a good heart than that’s all that matters but everyone is beautiful. You are stronger than your illness and/or anyone who bully’s you, remember that.

Step two, play encouraging muisic. This may seem strange however it has been known to make you feel more upbeat and powerful. Step three also sound peculiar, but pretend you have confidence, don’t lie but explore. Give yourselve a different name and jazz yourself up for the day, go crazy. Find yourself, not who people want you to be. Step four is to every day when you wake up and before you go to bed, look in the mirror and say 5 things you like about yourself.

So there are my tips for today! hope they helped! Remember to concentrate on having a good heart, you are already beautiful and ignore the bully’s who are brainwashed in their sadness and past. Stay strong! see you soon and bye for now xx