Suicide and Self-Harm

Hello whatever wonderful person is reading this and welcome to my fourth post on this blog. Now the subject I am about to address is a touchy one. But it’s also rarely spoken about. I suppose people believe it’s disrespectful to talk about Suicide and Self-harm or maybe even a curse. In my point of view some people treat this theme like monsters in the shadows, whispers in the wind. But we mustn’t be afraid, we must be strong, despite how difficult the subject is. But do we not owe it to the victims to share something of so much importance.

I am a survivor like many people out there. And I know, I know what its like to be there. You ask yourself why is it so easy to jump but so hard to keep fighting. It takes ten times more effort and time to put yourself together than it does to fall apart. I have tried before, I always want to but deep down something is saying no.

Its okay not to be okay, but don’t let this be your final day.  You have so much worth, more than you will ever know. But what will this do, it won’t end your pain, but instead pass it to somebody else. Suicide…wanting to die, does in no way make you weak. You want to go home to the angels, but you shall see them one day. What I always tell myself is to take it one day at a time. To find reasons to keep going and I find writing a list shows that there are so many.

There is a quote, I believe it says ‘ people who have committed suicide aren’t weak, they were just strong for too long’ and another which is from Hebrews 6:19 in the bible. It says something along the lines of   ‘Hope is the Anchor of the soul’. So those out there struggling, wanting to end it all, have hope because it can’t storm forever.

The next and final subject of todays post is Self-Harm. I cut for a long time, I still do on occasions and although it doesn’t take away the pain it is a relieve (I find anyway). Personally, and although I don’t suggest this particular coping method, don’t think its necessarily always a bad thing. If you are careful, clean and always have help near by, I think if it helps you than that’s okay. You mustn’t be ashamed, its normal to do things to cope like that and you are not alone. However you shouldn’t cut near the veins.

You are so brave and strong to all of you out there. I believe in you so much and I know you will get through this one day. You are not worthless as you are worth something to me and lots of others. I hope my posts have been helping, bye for now xx


Labels…first advice

Hello everyone, I do hope you are doing well and welcome to my first piece of advice. Before I begin it would mean trillions if you let me know if you like my advice and blog so far, and if not I am always eager to improve…

When you begin to hear the name of your illness all the time, it can become exhausting, but you also begin to see them as your labels. Perhaps you don’t even realise you are identifying yourself as your disorder. For example… “You are not depression, anxiety, bipolar, nor your personality disorder.” Because you see…you may have any of the above or something other, however that isn’t who you are. I know this because I know that you are something so much more.

I  watched a video a while ago, I believe it was made my an incredible motivational speaker known as ‘Prince EA’. All of his videos fascinate me, but it was one in particular which really made me think deeper. He said to imagine you are the sky. Hundreds of clouds pass through you, sometimes they are dark and other times lighter…but either way you are still the sky, the dark clouds can’t stay forever, but in the meanwhile you must remember that through all your dark clouds you are still the sky and you are still there.

A piece of advice I suggest is to rename your disorder, because lets be honest, we are all tired of feeling like we are being controlled and are tired of hearing it pop up in are daily lives. So starting now I would like you to name your disorder and show it that you are the owner. I call my depression…my dark cloud…and I call my anxiety…my raging tiger. Winston Churchill also used the same technique, for he called his depression…his black dog.

So lets rid off our labels and remember we are worth so much more than are illness. I really hope my advice helped somebody out there and feel free to comment what you named your mental disorder. Can’t wait to have more posts up for you soon. Stay strong xxx

Introduction time…

Hello and welcome to my blog of real smiles. Perhaps nobody is reading this, however if there is the slightest chance somebody out there is, I will do my best to give the most compforting, reasuring and helpful advice in my power. I decided to make this blog for several reasons, one being because I wanted to help others and two because I  have suffered from depression and anxiety for a long time. I wanted to express myself and give others advice and coping stratagies I have learnt over the long period of time I have dealt with such horrible illnesses.

I plan to take this blog and make it my own. I will use my own advice and awnser any questions you may have. I will be posting as much as possible and will do my best to spread positivity.

I would quickly like to add that I am not a specialist but if you are concerned that you are developing a mental disorder feel free to ask and I will give suggestions and possible conditions, although it’s always good to visit a doctor if you are able to.

I can’t wait to begin this journey and remember that you don’t need an illness to be here…perhaps your worried about yourself or a loved one or maybe you are simply curious.  Thank you for reading and I hope to have some new posts soon xx